Dating in your 40's & 50's

Tips for Dating in your 40’s and 50’s

Dating is very different in your 40’s & 50’s than it is in your 20’s,  so let’s look at some of the unique issues and find a way to navigate the waters!   

When you are in your forties you may have children that you are raising. Even if you do not, chances are that your potential dates will have children which make dating at this time particularly challenging.  When you are dating you should not let them meet your children until you are sure that this is a serious relationship. This will protect you and your family if you do not stay together very long. It takes some time to know someone and safety for your children should be the top priority. This means that if you set up a dating profile, do not have photos of your children. The statistics for online dating is at least 1/3 of the profiles are deceptive or fraudulent so you do not want any potential predators finding out too much information so always err on the side of safety. Online dating offers a wider range of people to meet outside your local area. This is something to keep in mind because someone that is not close by will be much more difficult to see, especially when you both have family obligations. Be wary if someone has never had serious long term relationships by this age. Chances are if someone has not committed to anyone yet, they will have a very hard time committing period.

The statistics for online dating is at least 1/3 of the profiles are deceptive or fraudulent so you do not want any potential predators finding out too much information so always err on the side of safety. Online dating offers a wider range of people to meet outside your local area. This is something to keep in mind because someone that is not close by will be much more difficult to see, especially when you both have family obligations. Be wary if someone has never had serious long term relationships by this age. Chances are if someone has not committed to anyone yet, they will have a very hard time committing period.

Take advantage of your local chamber of commerce, which has monthly gatherings for members and non-members. This is a good place to help your career and your social life.

50’s plus

This is the largest demographic of singles and growing…This is the time where the kids may be starting to be in college and the focus can turn to you again.  Most people at this stage of their life know themselves better and know what qualities are most important in a partner. These are good things! Find those things in life that make you happy. If you love to travel there are singles vacations to check out if you always wanted to learn something new…now is the time. Interesting people are attracted to interesting people. Be interesting!

The top picks for online dating sites are Match.com and OurTime.com and. Remember to listen to your intuition, if you see a red flag…pay attention! Don’t waste time chatting, after a few emails decide to meet for coffee or a drink (drive yourself and meet at a public place.)  You will learn more in 5 minutes in person than you will in 5 months on emails.. Meetup.com  can be a great place to meet others with common interests, plus there are probably singles events in your local area. We also recommend charity events and volunteering as places to meet quality singles.

Let friends and family know that you are “single and looking.” Don’t assume that people will automatically think of you when they meet someone that may be a good match. You have to tell them that you would appreciate that they think of you when the situation arises.

P.S .These are general dating tips for women and men, every situation is different and everyone experiences things at different times. Do not let anyone put you into a box (including yourself!) Live your own life, as you see fit and not to anyone else’s expectations.

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