I am a huge fan of Disney, but I wonder if their movies have helped people think that the love of their life will just show up “ when you least expect it.” If you REALLY think about this way of thinking, you will see how unrealistic this is. Let’s look at it this way when you want a job do you sit home and wait for it to come to you? No of course not, you try to make it happen by telling your family and friends, by networking and sending out many resumes. If you want anything of value in life it takes us to “make it happen,” not “wait for it to happen.”
Why would anyone take such a laid back attitude for something as important as meeting their partner in life? Don’t you think you should choose them, instead of waiting for them to come to you? We choose the job we would like and then go after it, we don’t wait for someone to offer us a job we didn’t choose first.
I know women in particular think, “I will just be sipping my coffee, and he will appear,” or “he will show up when I am ready.” O.K. this is completely illogical. Success in life is not by chance but by choice. Do you know any successful person that became successful because they did not choose to work hard and focus on success? Success is not easy, not in business and not in your personal life. Maybe we were never told that finding a great partner took work, maybe you were told: “It will just happen.” This is terrible advice. Each relationship teaches us something about ourselves and hopefully, we grow. Sometimes we need to experience what we do not want so that we can recognize when we find someone that is truly worth our time and energy. We want to make sure that we choose someone that adds value to our lives and not unnecessary drama.
YOU make great things happen by using different dating tools to meet many people so that you do not find yourself in a situation where you are contemplating settling. The reason that you may settle is that you haven’t met enough to know who is really a match and who you are hoping will become a match. Use many tools to meet new people, get active and enjoy different activities. Basically becoming more social where the opposite sex may be found is helpful. Women can go to some sporting events and men can check out a festival or wine tasting. When you see someone that “catches your eye” SMILE, find a reason to move closer and ask a question, keep it light and fun!
“Success in life is not by chance but by choice.”
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