We would like a man to cross the room after making eye contact to say hello…
We love the grand gesture that makes us feel special.
Women want a man that has integrity and values, can be trusted and is honest. No woman wants a self-centered, selfish man that constantly thinks of his own wants and needs. Women feel that you have to earn their trust and your actions will show if you have the values she is looking for in a potential partner.
A healthy self-assured woman will always be looking for a true partner. A woman is attracted to a confident, masculine man. This does not mean arrogance or narcissism, but a certainty that he is comfortable in who he is and what he has to offer. Women love to be treated like a woman with respect and appreciation. Women do not want to make every decision and enjoy when a man can take over and take care of things, not all the time but a balance that allows for each to have control at times, not one consistently over the other. Women want someone that enjoys life and has a healthy balance of work and play.
Both men and women need to feel needed…
and feel as though they are appreciated for what they offer a potential partner. Women want to feel sexy and desired and need to be told that they are desired and wanted. Women need to feel that they are understood and the key to that is communication. Women want a man that can be comfortable whether in jeans or a suit and in different social situations.
While you will find women that just want money and look to get that from the man in their life. These women don’t feel that they can earn money on their own, so they look outward to have someone give that to them. Their goal is to raise their perceived status by being around others that have the status they feel that they deserve. Of course, this is no different than a man wanting a trophy girlfriend or wife that is years younger to make him look important. Both feel the need to have outward appearances validate their importance.
People that are healthy are complete on their own, but realize that a partner adds so much value to their lives that they are worth the energy that it takes to share this life with. We are all a work in progress so maybe as long as we have a healthy understanding of what we should aspire to, at least we will be going in the right direction.
Unfortunately, sometimes we have to go through the unhealthy relationships to learn and appreciate the healthy ones!