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Conversation Starters for Couples to Help Connect

Being in a healthy relationship takes a lot of work, and our conversation starters for couples can help. Healthy conversations requires both parties to have an understanding of each other, work to lift each other up, and support each other when they are down. 


 In relationships, when a person isn’t putting in their side, you can sometimes feel discouraged, and lacking in emotional connection. 


We’ve all had instances in relationships where you don’t have anything to say, and a conversation (even with the person you love) can fall flat. 


Making a point to start new conversations and learn about your partner is incredibly beneficial and can help your relationship flourish. Use our conversation starter for couples whenever you need some ideas.


Conversation starters for couples when texting


Texting is difficult. It can be hard to recognize tone and attitude when you are sending and receiving messages, and intentions might not always be understood. 


Having some clear, short and easy messages are best when texting is your main form of communication. Also, these can help to expand the normal options from just “wyd”.


  1. What’s your day looking like? 
  2. When can we plan to see each other? 
  3. What is a high and low point of your day? 
  4. Is there anything which surprised you today? 
  5. What can I do to help/support you today? 
  6. Is there anything that you would like to talk about?
  7. What is one thing which excited you today? 
  8. Do you have a goal for the day, or for this week? 
  9. Do you have anything planned for the weekend?
  10. When is your next vacation?
  11. What is one thing you couldn’t live without?
  12. Could you go a day/week without your phone?
  13. Any new shows you’ve been watching?
  14. Do you want to get a pet?


Deep conversation starters for couples


 Sometimes, your conversations need a bit of a push to go past the normal everyday questions.

 These conversation starters include questions I’ve utilized in my own relationships and have helped to expand our conversations for the better! 


  1. What do you want to accomplish in your life? 
  2. Does religion play a part in your life? 
  3. What do you think you struggle most with?
  4. Do you want to live in one place for the rest of your life, or do you have other plans?
  5. How do you handle your emotions, are there certain things you do on a regular basis?
  6. What time do you put into your physical and mental health? Do you think it plays a part in your life?
  7. What is your biggest insecurity, and how does it shape your interactions?
  8. Where do you feel the most at home?
  9. What is something that scares you?
  10. How did your family express emotions and love when you were growing up?
  11. What was the most influential moment of your childhood?
  12. What is your favorite day we’ve had together?
  13. When you’re upset, how do you want to be comforted? What cheers you up?
  14. What is your view on lying in a relationship?
  15. What do you worry about?
  16. Discuss your boundaries.

intimate conversation starters for couples

Intimate conversation starters for couples


The more intimate conversations are often the ones where you learn the most about yourself and your partner’s relationship. 


They provide great moments of growth and can be instrumental for a healthy relationship.


  1. What was your first impression of me? 
  2. How much do you consider physical attractiveness in a relationship?
  3. What is more important to you, appearance or intelligence?
  4. What is a quality of mine you love/dislike?
  5. Do you believe in soulmates?
  6. What is your love language? Do you prefer gifts, words, or actions?
  7. Is there something you’d appreciate I do in our relationship that I don’t currently do?
  8. What kind of future do you see for us together?
  9. Where do you see our relationship going in the next 5 years? 10 years?
  10. How many times have you been in love?
  11. How and when did you know you were in love with me?
  12. Do you want to get married?
  13. Do you want children in the future? How many?
  14. What would your preferred life look like with children?  
  15. What is something about our relationship you’d like us to improve on?
  16. Do you ever worry about the future of our relationship?


Conversation topics for couples on the phone


Whether you are in a long-distance relationship, or just reaching out to your significant other, effective communication on the phone is so important.


 Especially when you are in a LDR, calling and texting may be the only way to talk to your partner, so you both have to work to keep it fresh.


  1. What is your week looking like? 
  2. Do you have any planned activities this week? Weekend? 
  3. Tell me about your day.
  4. Anything new happening this week?
  5. Have you seen the news lately?
  6. How has work been going lately; do you like your co-workers?
  7. Do you have any new projects?
  8. Talk about your favorite meals this week.
  9. What is your favorite dessert?
  10. What is your favorite weather?
  11. Talk about your dream vacation place. 
  12. Discuss your dreams this week. 
  13. Ask about your family.
  14. Ask about your goals.
  15. Do you have a celebrity crush?
  16. If you could afford any car, what would you buy?


Fun conversation starters for couples


Sometimes when you are in a long-term relationship, you get super comfortable.


 Sometimes we forget to learn about the little things your partner likes, or ask the random questions people do when first meeting. We all change our opinions at times, so things may have changed.


These are helpful for couples who’ve just started dating, or the ones together for years.


  1. What is your favorite genre of movie? Movies in general? 
  2. Do you like board games?
  3. What does your perfect relaxing weekend look like?
  4. Would you rather go out partying or stay in and watch a movie?
  5. How old were you when you had your first kiss?
  6. What is the first book you remember reading?
  7. What is the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done?
  8. Do you like horror movies or haunted houses?
  9. Do you believe in ghosts?
  10. What is the weirdest thing you’ve ever heard someone say at work?
  11. What is your favorite food to take out/make?
  12. Do you like concerts? Who/what is your favorite artist?
  13. Would you rather speak only in another accent for a week, or post an embarrassing picture online? 
  14. If you could live in another time period, when would it be? 
  15. Pick a superpower. 
  16. What’s something you’ve always wanted to try/do, but haven’t? 
  17. Do you prefer sweet or savory snacks? 
  18. Would you rather live near a beach or mountain?


Conclusion conversation starters for couples


Hopefully some of these will be helpful conversation starters for couples and give some new ideas on how to stimulate a conversation. 


Switching up topics every now and then is great for couples who see each other often, as well as are in long-distance relationships.


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