So often in new relationships, we look for signs to be able to answer the question, “does she love me?”
The relationship seems to be going well, but how do you know for sure how she really feels about you?
Sometimes we can misread the signs if we are not careful. Our list below helps to answer those questions so that you can recognize when she loves you even if she doesn’t say the words.
Does she love me? 11 Things that she will do
1. She makes you feel like you are in a partnership
You both know that you can count on each other. If one person has problems, the other can be counted on to be supportive and helpful.
For example, if your car is in the shop and you will need rides, if she’s able, she will offer and be there to help you.
Or if a family member is getting married, it is assumed that you are going to go with her. You are a team and you don’t have to wonder if you are part of her world.
This is key, if you have to keep wondering why she doesn’t seem to include you in that world, that tells you a lot.
2. She shows care & concern for you
When you are hurting, whether physically or mentally, she is concerned and worried about you. She will try to help you find a solution to whatever your problems may be.
The best part of being in a relationship is the support that you get from someone that cares about you and what you are going through. This is a surefire way that she will show you that she loves you.
Having someone in your life that can be empathetic is very important. We have all had experiences with people that are self absorbed and narcissistic.
Without a doubt we do not want to be in a romantic relationship with someone that has those traits.
3. She listens to you
We all want and need to be heard. Not always understood or agreed with, but heard. She listens and tries to understand what is on your mind.
And when you have important news to share, you know that she will be very happy to hear about it and celebrate with you.
4. She confides in you
She tells you things and lets you be a part of what she is thinking and feeling. You do not just talk about topics that are surface, but about things that are more meaningful.
This means that she trusts you with her feelings, this is something that she would never do to someone that was not special.
By her giving you her trust and you giving the same in return, you will have shared intimacy.
5. She is honest with you
When she is honest with you, about her dreams and desires, she is showing you that she trusts you and by being open with you.
Being honest about what you want is important to the relationship and builds a strong foundation. By her telling you these things, she is investing in the relationship and sees a future with you.
6. She wants you to be your best
And share your successes with you. She is your biggest cheerleader. When you need to focus on achieving your goals, she will be the first in line to help you along your way.
She will be the person that lifts you up, not someone that will be a negative influence in your life.
7. She shows you kindness
This is so simple and yet so important. Its the little things, the thoughtful text in the afternoon or bringing you something to eat when she knows that you have had a long day.
Actions speak so much louder than words.
Pay attention to her actions because these small and thoughtful kindnesses that are done often mean everything! They show that she loves you.
8. She respects you
Respect is one of the most important traits in a romantic relationship. If she respects you and is proud of who you are, then it is very likely that she is in love with you.
All relationships have to work on their communication skills. Respect is necessary to minimize the problems that all relationships normally have to work through.
Respect must be a two way street to be effective in any relationship.
9. She treats you as a priority
Spending time with you is a priority and she misses you when you are gone.
She talks in terms of “we” not just “you,” and “I” This is her way of including you in the future and showing you that you are a priority in her life.
10. She enjoys and is happy in your company
She sees and thinks about you and smiles. Of course this does not mean that she is happy all the time, just that in general, you know that she is happy being with you.
She may tell you, “I just love the time that we spend together” or she may show it with her actions of making time for you.
This is a close relative of “She makes you a priority,” the difference is that she acts and feels lighter with you.
The opposite would be if she is constantly complaining together and regularly irritable, then this is not how you would want your relationship to be.
11. You have that “Spark”
Not only are you happy together, you enjoy touching when you are talking. You are invited into her personal space and flirt regularly.
When you are not together, you think about each other and look forward to your time together.
You may not always know how to describe a “spark,” but you know it when you feel it. That desire to be together.
How do you know if she is the one?
The actions that are listed above show one’s true personality. Having someone that acts in these ways, tell you that she loves you. Not only that, this shows that she will be a good partner.
To know for sure if she is “the one,” you will have to have similar values. The values have to be important to you both. Things such as, “Do you both want kids?”
If so, will religion be a part of the upbringing? or “How do you see your life in 5 or 10 years?” Or “What are your future goals?”
Being in love is just the beginning, you both will have to be on the same page to be able to move forward.
How do you know if a girl loves you?
If your girlfriend shows most of the 11 signs listed above, then she loves you. Always watch actions, they are so much more important than words.
Someone may tell you that she loves you, but without loving actions, the words are hollow.
How do you tell if a man loves you?
He will also do the things that are listed above. The goal is always to treat each other the same way that you would want to be treated.
One main difference is that men love to be the protector when they love someone. It is common for men to want to take care of the people that they love.
Conclusion “Does she love me?”
The ways above are all signs that she is falling in love with you. Have you seen your relationship reflected above?
If so, then that is great! If you see too many of the actions missing, then you should take that as a red flag.
You should rethink how much time and effort you want to invest in a relationship that may not have long term possibilities.
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