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Don’t Make These Texting Mistakes! (when texting someone new)

It’s so easy to read things into every text when you are chatting with someone that you don’t know very well. Here are some texting mistakes to avoid at all costs. 

Texting mistakes to avoid

  1. Don’t send any graphic texts

If you want to really get to know someone, don’t send anything that can be thought of as being too graphic, even  joking. Its very tough to know when someone is joking or being sarcastic when texting, so in the beginning be safe and steer clear. 

Assuming that no one has sent any really graphic texts (which is the #1 texting mistake to avoid), we will focus more on the nuances of communicating with someone new.

2. Don’t make them guess your meaning

Try to be as clear as possible. After reading your text, if there are any questions that are not answered, just answer it in the same text. If you know its the next question, why wait to text again? This is especially important when you are busy or out and about.

3. Don’t let them wonder if you are interested in THEM

If someone brings up a topic, ASK them about it! Chances are they want to talk about it.  Asking questions is the only way to really get to know someone, so be curious. Pay attention to see if you are not following up on things that the other person is bringing up when talking.

4. Don’t text too long without talking IRL

After a relatively short period of time, you should move on to Facetime or talking on the phone. You will never get to know someone that well over text.  Texting should be a supplement, not the main way to communicate. 

5. Don’t leave them hanging

Don’t be in the middle of text conversations and then drop off the planet. Complete the thought, or the conversation. There is nothing more irritating that being left hanging WITHOUT any explanation. So make sure if you need to leave a convo unexpectedly, explain why. Nothing fancy, just an acknowledgment that you left mid conversation.

6. Don’t talk to long without meeting in person

Never spend too much time, texting or talking without making a plan to meet in person. You never get another chance to make a first impression, so plan the date and make an effort to put your best foot forward. The amount of people that ghost or never make a plan to meet in person is ridiculously high.  Don’t be that person.

Do’s when Texting

1. Do “go with the flow”

Each person has there own routine with texting. Some text often and think nothing of it, others text more sparingly. Follow their lead and go with the flow that they seem to be the most comfortable with.

2. Do Read the text again before sending

Make it a habit of reading your texts before sending them. Better yet, read it out loud. This is a good rule of thumb whenever you are writing. This will help to make sure that you are clear in your meaning.

3. Do show common courtesy

Talk to them the same way when texting as if it was in person and show common courtesy. Be a bright spot in a sea of terrible texters. 

We have lots of questions to ask and conversation starters that are a great way to get to know someone better and deeper.






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