When you love someone, knowing how to make a man feel appreciated, respected & loved is very important. Although everyone is unique, there are some universal ways to make your man feel special & needed.
How to make a man feel appreciated
Appreciation and love goes hand in hand in relationships. There isn’t a person alive that enjoys being taken for granted.
We all want to be seen and acknowledged for the things that we do, whether it is something big or small.
Actually it’s the small things that often matter most.
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Compliments
Telling the man that you love, what it is that you love the most about him is a good start. It’s so easy to make him feel good by giving a simple compliment.
The way that he smiles or takes care of you when you are sick. Guys love to hear compliments just the same way that women do.
For example if he takes you to a great restaurant that you’ve never been to before, tell him that he has great taste. As long as the compliment is from the heart.
Often we overlook the small moments that would benefit from an honest compliment. This is an easy thing to fix and a simple way to make him feel appreciated.
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Notice his actions
Notice what he does for you that makes your life better and easier. When you take the time to notice the simple things, he probably will reciprocate those small acknowledgements.
This is so important since “being taken for granted” is a common argument for couples.
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Quality time
It’s so important to take time for just the two of you. This means putting down the phone and giving them your attention.
Be Aware of what Dr. Gottman from the Gottman Institute calls this “small bids” for attention. Small bids are “requests to connect. They might take the form of an expression, question, or physical outreach. They can be funny, serious, or sexual in nature.”
How we react to those “small bids” will wither strengthen or weaken our relationship over time. According to Dr. Gottman, there are three ways to react to a bid for attention.
Turning towards (acknowledging the bid)
Turning away (ignoring or missing the bid)
Turning against (rejecting the bid in an argumentative or belligerent way)
Read more about how small bids affect your relationship.
Another important way to spend quality time together is to plan weekly date night. Whether you want to spend date night at home or go out for a nice evening. It doesn’t need to cost much money, only a little bit of planning.
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Supportive
Being supportive of him is so important. We all want our partner to be our biggest cheerleaders. To be the one person that we can count and to be in our corner, no matter what.
We all grow and change, so if his dreams change over time, we need to be supportive of those changes. (assuming nothing unhealthy or dangerous!)
If he wants to spend some time with friends or alone, we need to be secure enough in the relationship to be supportive of that.
This takes into account that you have a healthy relationship and not an unbalanced one. Both need to be supportive of each other to have a strong relationship.
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Thoughtfulness
It’s those everyday things that you can do for him to say “you’re important to me.” If you are getting yourself coffee or dessert, order something for him also.
If he has had a bad day, offer a massage. It can be knowing what would make his day better and doing before he asks for it.
Thoughtfulness is simply thinking of things that will make him happy, relaxed or smile.
How do you appreciate a man in words?
When you notice something that he does that you, all you have to do is tell him. It doesn’t matter what it is.
Maybe it’s getting you a cup of coffee or putting gas in your car. Whatever he does for you, tell him how much you love him for his thoughtfulness.
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If he doesn’t show you appreciation, you may have to ask for it.
Quite honestly, if after you ask him to show more appreciation and he doesn’t, well then you have your answer.
You can’t ever make someone do something that they don’t want to do. The best that you can do is to ask him to be more aware of all the things that you do for him.
But in the end, it’s up to him to act. It’s hard to be in a relationship with someone that doesn’t appreciate what you do for him. This will erode the relationship over time.
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How do you make a man feel respected?
Be very careful with doubt & criticism
If your guy wants to try to tackle a problem, or fix something and your default reaction is “You can’t fix that” You may want to rethink that response.
He wants you to have confidence in him and what he is able to do. Yes it may be easier to help him or call someone to fix the problem, but let him try to figure it out on his own.
Listen
Listen when your partner shares his opinions or decisions. They need to be listened to before you offer an alternative idea or opinion.
Do not criticize his decisions or disregard his opinions. He wants you to respect his judgement, and to do that you need to really hear him first.
We all have a habit of thinking about what we want to say in response, while they are talking. When we do this, we end up not really listening.
Listen first, respond after. This will help both of you feel like you are heard, even if you disagree.
Watch tone
No one wants to be told what to do and most of us don’t respond well to “orders” (to put it mildly!) When you respect someone, you don’t treat them as “less than.”
When you talk, you have to “ask” for what you would like and never “order” or be “demanding.” If you find that you slip, just be aware and apologize, a simple, “I’m sorry” can help a lot.
Everyone disagrees, but it’s important to be respectful of each of your points of views. It’s important to not “put down” his ideas when discussing.
His ideas are valid the same way that your ideas are. You have to hear each other out and tell each other what you agree with and what you would like to change.
Be aware of your words and criticizing in public and when he is not around. It’s hurtful to be criticized, especially when we are around other people.
Remember that often what we say to our friends may find a way back to him, so be kind.
Always remember that respect is a two way street.
We may not always get it right, but we should try our best to be much more respectful than not.
How do you show a man you love him?
Be physical
This includes sex, but not only sex. Daily hugs, kisses and holding hands are all ways to show him how much you love him. Sometimes it’s as simple as leaning on each other while watching a movie.
Learn their love language
Everyone has their own Love language. This means that we perceive different ways of giving and receiving love. The 5 love languages are
Words of affirmation
Acts of service
Receiving gifts
Quality time
Physical touch
Knowing what your partner’s love language is, can help you find the best ways to show your love to them.
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How do you make someone feel loved?
By telling them
Let him know how you feel by telling him. We have lots of cute ways to say I love you!
Tell him all the ways that he has changed and added to you your life making it better.
Be present
By being present in the moment, the time that you spend together will be more meaningful. It’s easy to be pulled in lots of different directions, but by taking the time to enjoy each other’s company, you can reconnect.
Small acts of kindness
These are the small things that you do for him that you know he will like. Maybe it’s a surprise dinner or a note in his lunch. Whatever it is, it’s all the small ways that we try to make each other happy.
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How do you make a guy feel loved over text?
We have lots of texts that you can send to your guy to let him know your feelings about him.
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Conclusion “how to make a man feel appreciated & loved”
Hopefully you can use these little reminders to help you show your guy how you feel about him. He needs to feel loved, appreciated & respected the same way that we do.
Oftentimes we just have to think before we react or say something offhanded. Relationships are strongest when they are give and take.
By being aware of what we do, our hope is that we will receive the same treatment that we give our partners.
Just taking that one moment to consider their feelings can make all the difference!