I am a huge fan of Disney, but I wonder if their movies have helped people think that their love…
life will just show up ” when you least expect it.” If you REALLY think about this, you see how unrealistic this advice really is to girls.
Snow white & Cinderella wait for their prince charming to arrive and Belle from Beauty is the Beast falls in love with her captor.
These are only three examples of so many movie story lines. OK, they are fun to watch but at some point you have to wonder if this adds to our misunderstandings about love.
Let’s look at it this way when you want a job do you sit home and wait for it to come to you? No of course not, you try to make it happen by telling your family and friends, by networking and sending out many resumes.
If you want anything of value in life we need to “make it happen,” not “wait for it to happen.”
Why would anyone take such a laid back attitude for something as important as meeting their partner to create their love life?
You need to choose them, instead of waiting for them to come to you. We choose the job we would like and then go after it, we don’t wait for someone to offer us a job we didn’t choose first.
I know women in particular think, “I will just be sipping my coffee, and he will appear,” or “he will show up when I am ready.” O.K. this is completely illogical.
Why do we think our love life will just appear?
Success in life is not by chance but by choice. Do you know any successful person that became successful because they did not choose to work hard and focus on success? Success is not easy, not in business and not in your personal life.
Maybe we were never told that finding a great partner took work, maybe you were told: “It will just happen.” This is terrible advice. Each relationship teaches us something about ourselves and hopefully, we grow.
Sometimes we need to experience what we do not want so that we can recognize when we find someone that is truly worth our time and energy.
We want to make sure that we choose someone that adds value to our lives and not unnecessary drama.
YOU make great things happen by using different dating tools to meet many people. This will take care of finding yourself in the situation where you are contemplating settling.
The reason that you may settle is that you haven’t met enough people to know who is really a match.
Its best to use many tools to meet new people, get active and enjoy different activities.
Basically becoming more social where the opposite sex may be found is helpful. Women can go to some sporting events and men can check out a festival or wine tasting. When you see someone that “catches your eye” SMILE, find a reason to move closer and ask a question, keep it light and fun!
“Success in life is not by chance but by choice.”
Love Life Quotes
“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”
“Love is like the wind, you can’t see it but you can feel it.”
“It is easy to love people in memory; the hard thing is to love them when they are there in front of you.”
“One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love.”
“The highest function of love is that it makes the loved one a unique and irreplaceable being.”
“Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.”
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
“Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend.”
-Martin Luther King
“Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.”
“A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love.”
Read more relationship advice & tips.
What do you think?
You must be logged in to post a comment.