One of the reasons that we take personality quizzes or read our horoscopes is because we love to learn more about ourselves.
Anything that gives us some insight into relationship compatibility & why we do what we do is very helpful and fun!
Finding out our personality type is very interesting and used by colleges and employers everywhere. Since it is so enlightening, I thought it would be fun to find out more about the tests and what they can and can’t tell us.
First of all I spent time taking lots of different online tests. While they are similar, I did receive different answers. It turns out that some of the questions have a simple, “a or b?” but others offer a range of “Definitely agree” to “don’t agree at all.” The “range questions” allow for the variations of our personality but they can also alter the results slightly.
I seem to be mostly ENTP but with some tests ENTJ was a very close second. I have also taken the DISC test years ago and can easily see the similarities in what they have all found.
So when you get your compatibility results, although very insightful the results are NOT set in stone because we change and there are some variations in the questions of the chosen personality tests.
Personality Types Test
Check out these 20 free tests including the Jung Personality tests, Disc Personality Test and the Personality test based on the “Big Five personality traits”
Myers briggs type indicator test This paid test is an extensive test if you want more details that some of the free tests do not include.
The most popular personality test is the Myers Briggs test (MBTI) which is the mother daughter team that expanded on the conceptual theory proposed by Carl Jung in his 1921 book Psychological types.
Jung speculated that humans experience the world using four principal psychological functions – sensation, intuition, feeling, and thinking – and that one of these four functions is dominant for a person most of the time. (source)
Each of the 4 letter preferences stands for – Introversion and Extroversion, Sensing and Intuition, Thinking and Feeling, Judging and Perceiving.
A simplified overview of each preference
Extroverts enjoy the energy of being around people and outer sources. They like variety, action and achievement and often want to change the world.
Introverts energy is more within. They do not need excessive stimulation and enjoy their alone time. They are reflective and may keep more of their emotions to themselves.
Sensors are pragmatic, they look at the facts to form their decisions. They trust their experiences to come up with practical solutions.
Intuitives look at the big picture. they enjoy things that are new and interesting. This personality type is interested in possibilities and seek creative solutions to problems.
Thinkers analyze the pros and cons, they are logical and make decisions based on fact. They believe that being truthful is more important than being tactful.
Makes decisions based their personal values and how others are affected. Feelers are compassionate and communicative, preferring harmony.
Judging – (J)
Judgers prefer a planned and orderly life. They like when things are under control and settled.
Perceivers prefer being flexible and spontaneous. They are more casual and loose and are open to new experiences and information.
It is the combination of these letters (4 preferences) that form the 16 personality types that are listed below..
ISTJ personality traits
The ISTJ personality is efficient, concrete and stable. They are decisive, conservative, critical, and pragmatic. This type is responsible and analytical, conscientious and detailed. Some of their other qualities are that they are logical, organized, factual and systematic.
This personality type is sensible and consistent, they dislike uncertainty and change. Disorder and being rushed is not ideal since they prefer to be calm.
INTJ personality traits
This personality type is innovative and pursues competence. They are determined and independent, decisive and critical. INTJs seek understanding and are logical and conceptual, insightful and vision oriented.
They dislike procrastination and lack of initiative. With all of their positive qualities they tend not to be very fond of talking about their feelings.
ISFJ personality traits
This personality type is helpful and warm, stable and detailed, factual and sympathetic. They are dependable and organized, thorough and conscientious, systematic and conservative. ISFJs are also realistic, caring and practical, supportive and selfless.
While being devoted and considerate, they do not care for last minute changes and indecision.
INFJ personality traits
This personality type is inspiring and persevering with having a love of language. They are insightful, creative and sensitive. This personality type seek harmony and growth. INFJs are intense and look for meaning in what they do. They are visionaries and can be serious in their life.
They dislike disorder and conflict. Negativity from others and criticism of their ideas tends to add stress to this personality type.
ISTP personality traits
They are independent and adventurous, logical and analytical, practical and adaptable. ISTPs are curious, cool and an observer while also being a problem solver. This type is realistic, exact and a hands on troubleshooter.
This personality type dislikes lack of independence and inefficiency. They do not like to be forced into activities or being around “out of control” emotions.
ISFP personality traits
This personality type is gentle and caring, compassionate and adaptable, spontaneous and realistic. They are patient with details and helpful. Some other traits are being idealistic, observant and loyal.
ISFPs do not like being disrupted or when others lack understanding. They do not like to be pressured for time or work in places that neglect personal values.
INFP personality traits
INFPs are adaptable and independent. They enjoy ideas, language and writing. This personality type is inquisitive and an empathic helper. INFPs hold values and caring as very important. They are compassionate and pursue meaning and harmony in their life.
Being critical and doing mundane work are things that stress this personality out. They are not a fan of routine or being rushed. Disharmony and disrespect are also high on the list of things that they do not like.
INTP personality traits
This personality type is independent and adaptable, questioning and critical. INTPs are intellectually curious, love ideas and are logical. They like to pursue understanding and are analytical while being objective, detached and conceptual.
They do not love socializing or being engaged in too many outgoing activities. Small talk and not being logical are things that they are not fond of. Noise and interruptions add stress to this personality.
ESTP personality traits
This personality type seeks excitement, adventure and experiential things. ESTPs are spontaneous and troubleshooters. They are observant, realistic, pragmatic and efficient. This type has an easy going personality that is adaptable but also direct.
Commitment and isolation tends to stress out this personality. They do not like quick decisions or routines.
ESFP personality traits
This fun-loving and generous personality is energetic and social. They are friendly, practical, expressive and caring. ESFPs are openly enthusiastic and seek excitement. This personality type is observant, hands on, resourceful, adaptable and spontaneous.
They dislike being restrained by routine and not being able to change their commitments. They do not like being forced to make a decision or have their feelings dismissed. Detailed plans also add stress to this personality type.
ENFP personality traits
This personality is playful and spontaneous. They seek novelty, love possibilities and are open and optimistic. ENFPs think about the future and are creative and warm, enthusiastic and imaginative. This energetic personality is also individualistic, insightful and caring.
They dislike rudeness and procedures, things that are mundane and people that are rude. Too many details and obligations add stress to this personality.
ENTP personality traits
This personality is adaptive and independent. ENTPs seek novelty and enjoy change and traveling globally. They are energetic, inventive, logical and enthusiastic. This personality type enjoys the abstract and theoretical.
ENTPs are also ingenious, analytical, complex and verbal.
ENTPs dislike deadlines and too many details. They can be stubborn and need to be stimulated. Boring and mundane work are two of the things that add stress along with not wanting to focus on personal problems.
ESTJ personality traits
The ESTJ personality likes to take charge and uses common sense. They are critical, concrete, systematic and analytical. This personality is decisive , practical, organized and very results oriented. Being logical and making decisions on fact is a trait of the ESTJ.
This personality dislikes uncertainty, inefficiency and constant changes. Anyone having lack of control, is unorganized or indecisive adds stress to this personality type.
ESFJ personality traits
This personality is loyal, cooperative and appreciative. They are orderly and conscientious, sociable, warm and caring. Their empathetic personality is “people oriented,” practical and responsible. ESFJs warm way seeks harmony with those around them.
They do not like uncertainty and isolation. Lack of emotional support and dismissing their feelings adds stress to this personality type which also enjoys being appreciated.
ENFJ personality traits
The ENFJ personality is sociable, expressive, warm and idealistic. They are an empathic and like harmony. ESFJs are sociable, insightful, cooperative and imaginative. Their conscientious and appreciative personality is also tactful. This type looks for possibilities around them.
Indecision, procrastination and seclusion adds stress to this personality type. Not being appreciated or dismissing how they feel are things that they dislike.
ENTJ personality traits
The ENTJ personality pursues improvement and achievement. They are organized, critical and logical. This type is strategic and systematic while being assertive and decisive. ENTJs like to be the organizer, initiator, planner and are very vision focused.
They dislike loneliness and lack of control of those around them. Inefficiency and challenging their competence adds stress to this personality.
For more information
It is so beneficial to understand ourselves better and to see how we interact with others.
These personality tests give us the tools to see why we clash with some personalities and not with others. This is especially helpful with romantic relationships.
Some personality types are better together than others. It is also helpful to know why someone acts the way they do and to be consciously aware of how to tweak our actions to make these relationships more harmonious.
Below we list the preferred matches of these personalities
ISTJ relationship compatibility
The “Examiner.” This personality trait is not the most expressive when it comes to relationships since they are more serious and reserved. But they care about keeping promises and are loyal to those they love.
The most compatible matches are ESTP and ESFP. These two extrovert personalities work well in getting to know the ISTJ plus their laid back traits work with the serious nature of ISTJ.
INTJ relationship compatibility
The “Strategist.” INTJs respect intellect, logic, and efficiency. This personality type is best matched with ENTP and ENFP. Since these two personalities are extroverts, this helps in social situations where the INTJ is less likely to flourish.
Both the ENTP and ENFP are perceptive and relaxed and they appreciate the independence that the INTJ needs.
ISFJ relationship compatibility
The “Defender.” Relationships with this personality type tends to be honest, stable and long lasting. They are nurturers and value tradition and family.
The best matches are the ESFP and the ESTP personalities. The extroverted personalities help to balance the nurturing and planning traits of the ISFJ personality.
INFJ relationship compatibility
The “Confidant.” Relationships can be significantly more difficult to initiate for this personality type. They often rely on their own instincts and are protectors that will try to avoid hurting or upsetting others.
The protector makes a good listener is very loyal and likes to take charge. The best matches are ENFP, ENTP, INTJ & INFJ. The extrovert personality adds balance white the other two are similar and will likely be understanding of their unique traits.
ISTP relationship compatibility
The “Craftsman.” This personality type may not be looking for a long term relationship, especially if pressured. They do not usually make plans but rather live more day to day.
The best matches are ESFJ and ESTJ. These types of personalities are extroverted and enjoy planning which helps by adding balance. All the personalities enjoy new experiences and to do fun and meaningful activities.
ISFP relationship compatibility
The “Artist.” This personality has a love of art, music and beauty in general. They may struggle to express their own emotions and be impulsive. They can be selfless in a relationship but need to remember not to ignore their own feelings to please another.
Best matches are ESTJ and ESFJ. Extroverts help to bring out their personality by their introverted nature. These personalities appreciate beauty and can bring structure that the ISFP is not as known for.
INFP relationship compatibility
The “Healer.” This personality type dislikes conflict and will go out of their way to avoid it. INFPs tend to go by their feelings rather than facts or logic. They seek a lifelong relationship, but since they are idealists they may not want to see the problems as they are.
The best matches are ENFJ and ENTJ. These intuitive personalities help them to understand the INFP personality. Their extroverted nature helps to complement the introverted personality since they can compensate for their shyness.
INTP relationship compatibility
The “Thinker.” For the right individual, the INTP can be a very loving and committed partner. This personality likes their independence and is not a fan of social gatherings.
The best matches are ENTJ and ENFJ. These extroverted personalities sense when the INTP requires space. These personalities have their own friends that they can socialize with and are able to pick up the slack of planning which they enjoy.
ESTP relationship compatibility
The “Mechanics or Doers.” They like to take risks and try new things and activities. ESTPs are confident, upbeat and never boring but be aware that they may be looking for “new” opportunities.
Their best matches are ISTJ and ISFJ. Both of these personalities are similar with the ESTP in that they are not overly emotional or sensitive. These personalities can create the structure that bores the doers.
ESFP relationship compatibility
The “Performers.” This personality loves to have fun and to live in the moment. They are charismatic and enjoy the beauty in their surroundings. They like to keep their relationships light and fun.
Their best matches are ISTJ and ISFJ. These introverted personalities become a challenge to the performers extroverted nature.
Each balances the other to make them both happy especially when they are equally invested in the relationship.
ENFP relationship compatibility
The “Inspirers” like to find their purpose by trying new things in their life. This personality likes their relationships to be new and have some excitement. Their partners need to be gentle and considerate when giving honest criticism.
The best matches are INFJ and INTJ. They are logical and help the impulsive nature of the ENFPs. Since the ENFPs are extroverted, they help the introverted personalities to be able to open up.
ENTP relationship compatibility
The “Visionaries” This personality is driven by interesting conversations and intellect. They are curious and have a passion for knowledge.
Their best matches are INTJ and INFJ. The introverted types tend to be interested in science and have an appreciation for intelligence. Love of knowledge and self confidence make them a great match for the ENTPs.
ESFJ and ENFJ are also possibilities with this personality type.
ESTJ relationship compatibility
The “Guardians.” This personality enjoys tradition and being part of something meaningful. Their relationships are known to be stable. They are sharp with a great sense of humor and are faithful when in a committed relationship.
Best matches are ISTP and ISFP. These personalities are not highly emotional and complement each other. Their laid back and and open personalities help to balance the ESTJ’s need for structure.
ESFJ relationship compatibility
The “Caregivers.” This personality type is nurturing and likes to please the people around them.
They put a lot of effort into making their partner happy. They need to feel that they are appreciated but need to make sure they do not ignore their own needs.
Best matches are ISFP and ISTP. These personalities use logic and facts that help to balance the emotion driven ESFJ which creates a more well rounded relationship.
ENFJ relationship compatibility
The “Givers.” They are charming and easy to talk to. ENFJs are fun and welcoming while also needing to be loved and accepted by others. This personality type avoids conflict but needs to be careful who they surround themselves with. ENFJs are dedicated and desire long term partners.
Best matches are INFP and INTP. The intuitive nature of these personalities along with the ENFJ allows for each to care for the others needs. The extroverted nature of the ENFJ helps to bring out the introverted personalities, creating balance.
ENTJ relationship compatibility
The “Executive.” They love knowledge and want a relationship that has new experiences and challenges with the ability to learn. They take their relationships seriously and are loyal partners.
The best matches are INTP and INFP. Their introverted nature is a challenge to the extroverted ENTJ. The introverted personalities will be more understanding by the ENTJs lack of communication about emotional topics.